Category Archives: Mindful Communication

Practicing Truthfulness: Exercises in Mindful Living

Last week I wrote about the ethical precept of nonviolence, or Ahimsa from the teachings of yoga.  This week I have been practicing with the second precept of  “truthfulness,” or Satya. You really can’t practice truthfulness well without nonviolence, so it’s convenient that they come right after the other. But even when you speak with

Eight Ways to Create Peace

This week in the yoga classes I teach, I have been talking about the ethical practice of non-violence, or Ahimsa as it’s called in Sanskrit. Non-violence is at the heart of the teachings in yoga and provides the foundation for the other guidelines. Regardless of its historical or religious underpinnings, I think most people would

Mindful Communication and the Power of Vulnerability

The past week held many lessons in letting go and required the willingness and courage to be vulnerable. Every day I was given the opportunity to come face-to-face with people and circumstances that, if I were to approach them with mindfulness and Non-Violent Communication (NVC), would ask me to give up my agenda and be

A Month of Mindful Gratitude

As we move into November and the holiday season, we begin to think about Thanksgiving and the practice of giving thanks. Of course, giving thanks doesn’t have to be a one holiday practice. Giving thanks can be a daily practice that can reap a wide variety of social, psychological, and physical health benefits. Since you’ll

Talk and Listen with Mindfulness

I have been reading and practicing with some teachings on mindful speech recently and it seems to be an area of great difficulty for most people.  I know it is for me and it is something that I am sure I will work on for the rest of my life. What is mindful communication? Mindful

Mindfulness Rescues Relationships

Having just finished an 8 week Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction Program (MBSR) this summer with faculty and staff at the University of Missouri, I noticed a particular common outcome for many of the participants. “My relationship with my husband/wife/partner/co-worker is better.” There were a number of reasons why these relationships had improved. 1. I listened to

To Listen and Be Heard – Mindfulness in Communication

Communication should be easy, right?  I say something and you listen.  You say something and I listen.  However, communication in which each person feels heard and acknowledged is actually quite rare. “Every good conversation starts with good listening.” In the Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction Program I taught this week, we did an exercise in which one

“What did you say?” — The Practice of Mindful Listening

How often have you found yourself in a conversation at lunch or dinner; sitting in a meeting at work; or talking to a friend or partner and realize you have no idea what was just said?  If you are anything like the average person, it happens every day (probably more times than you are willing to